the Haunted Stars

(AKA The system formerly known as Quoi Haunting!)

We're the Haunted Stars, a plural group of 3ish people, give or take, sharing brain and body space. Instead of having one person in charge, we have 3 front-runners that share responsibility for the outworld life. Many of the people who don't run or spend time around the front live inworld and continue lives in there without much participation in outworld life. Our inworld is rich and diverse, and our lives there are just as real and impactful to us as our lives outworld. Most of us are nonhumans and fictives/factives, and if we don't start out that way, we sure end up that way!

We've been working together consistently since 2014 (though we've been plural since very early childhood), and over that time have been diagnosed and re-diagnosed and undiagnosed on the grounds of not uhhh ... having a problem? And frankly we have so many oppositions to the "DID" diagnosis that we just don't think it applies. We cooperate with each-other, have good communication, and other diagnoses better summarize our issues. The attempts at forcing a diagnosis on us have only ever done further harm and delayed treatment for our real anxiety disorders. We generally prefer to take a more philosophical approach to our existence. No disorder there. We would also contend the "dissociative identity" part, but that's for another page :B

We all have our own complicated relationships to the body, which is intersex, trans*, physically disabled, and neurodivergent in different ways depending on who's fronting. How we relate to the body often depends on how our inworld bodies and subjective experiences align with the outworld one and how we reconcile those, and just because we share a body, doesn't necessarily mean we share the exact same life experiences. In fact, many of us have had very different experiences and have really complex relationships to different social messages based on that.

Some plural groups are very caught up in how trauma impacts or doesn't impact their existence as a system, and the validity of other systems based on the presence or not of acceptable levels and types of trauma. We don't do that, or care. Trauma doesn't define our existence and never will, and we can and will and have healed from it while remaining plural -- no matter how unbelievable that may seem to those who believe plurality is an unnatural way to be.

You can read more about etiquette and how to interact with us as a system/individuals in a system here!